Caspering is the new terminology being used in the on-line dating world, and it’s deemed to be far better than being Ghosted.
“Being Ghosted can have a severe psychological impact for the person on the receiving end, leaving them feeling hurt, rejected, confused as to what went wrong, and unable to get closer to move on from the situation” – says Quinsee
Caspering on the other hand is a more respectful form of ending a conversation leaving both parties feeling respected, understood and able to move on from the interaction with their emotional well-being intact.
So what’s the difference?
Quinsee says: “Caspering involves a gradual reduction in contact, whereas Ghosting is a blunt stop of all contact.”
Caspering makes room for honesty around the reasons why the potential relationship didn’t work (e.g. no chemistry, different lifestyles, different interests etc), which enables an opportunity for personal growth at the same time (i.e. being able to have difficult conversations).
By Caspering someone, we are acknowledging that we all have emotions, and deserve to be treated with kindness and consideration.
Getting closure is a critical component of any dating experience and it’s a more mature way of dealing with the situation by taking ownership of your actions and impact on another person’s emotional state.
This interaction results in more amicable parting of ways between two people and potentially leaving room for a future friendship and connection.
